"It's the end of the world as we know it... and I feel fine"
Over the past few days, R.E.M. has popped into my head. Most recently at 3am this morning after getting up to pee in the middle of the night. I found myself wondering about what the lyrics to this song would sound like today & whatever happened to Michael Stipe and R.E.M? I thought I should google that in the morning (I did - he's celebrating his 60th with some new music apparently)
Things feel pretty surreal right now.
Spending 10 minutes on Facebook feels like entering into an apocalyptic alternate reality where toilet paper is God & hand sanitizer is currency.
Just another thing in a long line of 2020 weirdness. I've said it before, this is a truly bizarre year.
Anyway - today I'd like to offer you some ideas for managing your anxiety, regulating your nervous system, and connecting to your body in the midst of a global pandemic.
First. To the Health Care...
What a week... what a month... what a YEAR 2020 has been so far! I don't know about you but this year has been a MASSIVE shake-up for me - and it doesn't show any signs of slowing down.
How's Mercury retrograde going for you? I'm feeling all sorts of clarity and upheaval this month and along with it, I'm getting some really clear guidance on what to teach inside my community. It's been WILD seeing the synchronicities this week as I've been creating content for my upcoming course, my keynote talk at RISE, and sharing teachings in my yoga classes.
A couple weeks ago I invited 10 women to join me in beta testing my upcoming Jade Egg course. The response was so INCREDIBLE and I can hardly wait to share this course with them!
As I chatted with one of the women in the program yesterday, I had a massive realization - well, there were many a-ha moments on that call and ultimately those moments are what prompted me to share this...
There are so many ways to approach self-care, and it's so important to find something that works well for you, but one of the areas many women tend to overlook is their sexual self care. When things get busy, it's often sensuality that gets placed on the back burner. I've spoken to so many women who deeply desire to reconnect with their sensuality - because they know how good it feels to embody pleasure and they've realized how this part of themselves has been ignored. Having a regular sexual self-care practice is one way to ensure that there is an ongoing intentional connection with your sexuality.
In a culture that expects you to be 1000% desirous all of the time, sometimes when you're "not in the mood" or feeling overwhelmed - it's easier to completely disconnect with your sensuality rather than focus on it.
Here's something I want you to know. Taking care of your sensuality doesn't mean having more sex, it doesn't even mean that you need to...
Have you ever gone through a phase where you just didn't want to make love or workout, or do much of anything? You let things slide, like, that regular yoga practice you started a few months ago and you'd rather "Netflix and Chill" than book yourself in for that spin class you couldn't get enough of back in January.
Then there are times you feel like crying ALLLLL the time. Every time you look on Instagram you feel a wave of envy come over you as you start comparing your success, your life, and your body to the people you follow. You logically know everyone is just sharing their highlight reel, but you can't help but feel like everyone else's life is better than yours. Anxiety is running high and your self-esteem is running low.
What about those days where you're ready to make a change? You want to take on a new challenge and you've got ideas flowing faster than you can write them down. You're feeling ready for action and you can't wait to get started.
And then there are those times...
What surprises many of the women I work with is that I actually teach all of my yoga students some of the most effective mindfulness tools that work great on the yoga mat and even better in the bedroom and that having amazingly connected, mind-blowing sex with your partner (or on your own) is only just a few Sun Salutations away!
This method of teaching yoga wasn’t something I learned in my yoga teacher training 10 years ago. It’s actually something I learned two years ago while training with Layla Martin to be a Sex Coach. These mindfulness tools that I teach and share with my yoga students are actually the 5 Elements of Holistic...
The two most impactful healing journeys you can take are:
Healing your relationship with money
Healing your relationship with your sexuality
If you're going to hire a coach to support you with a life transformation - the best investment you could make is to hire someone to help you in one of these two areas.
The reason for this is because both sex + money are a source of some of our deepest wounding and shame.
Shame disconnects you from yourself and it disconnects you from others. Shame happens when you have a belief that something about your desires, your current experience or your past is wrong and that if you shared it with others they may not like you, and as a result, you wouldn't belong.
Instead of sharing, you create a false sense of self and relate from that safe space instead of from your authentic truth.
This isn't optimally healthy and can lead to feelings of anxiety, avoidance, and fear.
When you begin to unravel your story and heal shame you create space to...